First things first – there must be a grave reason for her to leave. Research shows that women in the US are more likely to initiate a break-up (or divorce). A woman’s reason/s for leaving may vary from person to person, depending on her personal experiences in the relationship.

Though this is the case, when a woman leaves a relationship, she has already tried everything to save her partnership. Gender biases aside, a study shows that women are hurt more emotionally and physically in a break-up.

This study also says that a woman is more invested in a partnership, and that probably is the reason why it hurts more for a woman when a relationship ends than for a man in a heterosexual relationship.

Is there anything a man can do about it?

As previously mentioned, science agrees that when a woman leaves a man, she thinks long and hard about her decision and probably endured some next-level hurt before leaving the relationship altogether.

Whether or not there is something her partner can do to change her mind is a personal question, but given that you were the one in the relationship, there will be ways for you to assess the save-ability of your relationship. Finding ways to win your wife back may seem tedious or ridiculous.

But if you love your partner and want to do everything to win them back, you will move heaven and earth to make that possible. If and when you find the path to saving your marriage, you will know if there’s a chance to revive it.

You can try to change her mind

Generally, the state of a woman’s mind is very complex and personal, let alone changing after a separation. However, the possibility of changing a woman’s mind rests entirely on the reason why she left in the first place.

There’s no guarantee on this, but since you were in a relationship with her, you are already at an advantage in knowing how (if you can) to win her back. Most women leave because they are emotionally drained and sometimes physically hurt as well.

Still, depending on the magnitude of the hurt, if you can find a way to turn the pain around or assure her that she won’t experience the same suffering again, then you may be one step closer to winning her back.

Some of the things a woman needs in a partnership are assurance, security, and comfort, and for her to have that in you assures her that you will take care of her for as long as she needs. The sad part, though, is that whatever trauma she has taken up, even from previous relationships, she still has those at the back of her mind, so you should also consider healing that part of her as well.

You can give her space to figure things out on her own

Sometimes, the reason for her leaving is too grave to consider returning – right now. Surely, this relationship is significant for you to throw away, so it’s understandable that thinking of letting her go will send shivers down your spine.

However, by giving her the space she needs, you can start focusing on yourself and achieving a better life even without your wife. Giving her time to think things through could be a win-win situation for both of you in the long run. Why do I say that?

Because when you give her space, you respect her decision to have the chance to grow and flourish as an individual. On your end, you can use this time apart to better yourself. Being the person who knows her the most, you would know what caused her to turn away from the relationship and what to do so you can get her back.

You can try to be that person, that safe space, or that comfort zone she longs to have, or if you’re lucky enough, she’ll see the progress you’re making in turning your life around that she decides to give your love another shot.

While many positive results can come from this scenario, you should be fair and not “expect” her to come back because you’re better or guilt trip her into coming back because you’re miserable without her, although you probably would be. 

You can accept it and move on separately with your lives

It may be a bitter pill, but trying everything to win your wife back and seeing no progress after a reasonable while may mean it’s time to face the fact and accept her decision. Letting her go has got to be the most difficult decision because you’ve already built a life with this person, and now she’s missing in action.

Trust that you know her well to understand how she processed this decision and that this may be difficult for her, too. Always approach with kindness and consideration because while the break-up is painful for you, she’s hurting just the same. Instead of playing the blame game, focus on your growth and maturity.

If you have children, remind yourselves that whether you like it or not, how you and your wife approach your separation will affect their little lives. Ultimately, your children want happy parents, whether you stay together or not. 

Conclusion

I think it goes without saying, but you should spend each day doting and taking care of your wife in every way possible. As the adage says, “Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater… She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.”

Shower her with love and affection, and she will love you to the best of her abilities. Don’t let it get to the point where she has already emptied herself into giving you all of her. She is left with nothing more to give because this is when she starts to feel emotionally and physically drained.

Whoever figured it out first may have been unclear, but this is an unwritten agreement from all the world over, “A happy wife means a happy life”.