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7 Key Signs a Woman Has Not Been Sexually Active

Sophie Simons
February 22, 2024

How can you tell if a woman has been sexually active, or can you? Maybe you want to know if people can tell that you’re not sexually active because you’re feeling shame about that fact. You hope to find a way to mask and indicators. 

No one should be ashamed of their sexual activity. These things “ebb and flow” with slow periods and other priorities happening at different stages in life; it’s natural.

7 Signs That A Woman Is Sexually Inactive

Sometimes, people are curious if the person they’re dating is sexually active or whether someone they broke up with has been sexually active since they were together. And some women wonder if others can tell that they’re sexually inactive, whether there are distinct signs that give them away.

As a woman, it’s better to be aware of how your behavior lets people know that you’re not currently having sex to allow better awareness and a greater level of confidence. Here, we’ll go over a few telltale signs that give your intimate details away. 

1. Are you clingy?

If you’ve been somewhat clingy recently, it can be a hint that you haven’t been sexually involved. Clinginess can be a sign that you need attention or emotional support that you aren’t receiving in other ways. This is more typical for someone who has been inactive for a longer period of time.

Often, these ladies will be particularly sensitive or vulnerable from the start because they haven’t been involved for quite some time. As a mate, it’s important to never make presumptions about another person’s sex life. Instead, there should be an open conversation with shared details from each person when there’s interest in dating.

2. Do you seek attention on social networks?

It’s suggested that seeking out attention on social networks is often seen in women who are inactive sexually. These ladies will usually:

  • Flirt in groups and with individuals
  • Use seductive pictures with their posts
  • Overshare in their posts

This isn’t a clear-cut indication of a sexually inactive woman. Everyone’s participation in social networks is an individual experience, with many people choosing the path as described here but for different reasons. It can be a fun trip for sharing and meeting new people. However, if you’re overly seductive, you might be showing signs of a person lacking sexual intimacy.

3. Are you exhibiting “mom” vibes?

Some women without recent sexual experiences can exhibit “mom-like” vibes, including having a tendency to be protective, show empathy, and be caring. These are naturally feminine characteristics, but it’s unusual to display these traits unless you establish trust first. 

Women without sexual experience move more toward meaningful partnerships with an emotional connection instead of focusing on romance or desire. These women also seek validation and reassurance, showing their vulnerable side early with a level of hypersensitivity based on hormones that are not satisfied with sex.

4. Do you lack confidence?

Confidence comes in many forms, but when a woman is lacking in this trait, she might struggle with self-esteem or have a poor body image to the point she refrains from sexual intimacy. This can be an attempt to avoid rejection or judgment or due to a poor sense of self-awareness and a lack of self-confidence.

Some factors that show low sexual confidence include:

  • Indulging in overly seductive behavior or that which will garner attention
  • Showcasing exorbitant suspicion/jealousy when involved in a partnership
  • Avoiding conversations about sex
  • Extreme body image discomfort

A person suffering from these issues should be encouraged to discuss the struggles and possibly seek help. Developing sexual confidence can be achieved, but it can be a gradual process.

5. Are you someone who indulges in pleasing people?

When you explore the nonsexual behavior of a woman, it can sometimes offer insight into her sexual activities and her life in general. One sign that can indicate a hormonal issue and need to be desired is an indulgence in people-pleasing.

Often, in this scenario, a woman will go above and beyond to please people, even to the point of sacrificing her own needs.

This woman needs constant reassurances of the fact that she’s desired and found to be attractive despite her unsuccessful attempts to engage in sexual intimacy.

6. Do you have a fear of loss?

A woman who is not sexually active will become extremely attached fast when starting to date. Her biggest fear at the moment is that this new connection will lose interest. She fears they’ll walk away and that no one out there will ever really get her. This fear can develop into extreme clinginess or hesitation to progress forward with a physical relationship to avoid rejection.

If she does decide to take that step and become sexually active, she could become possessive or obsessive, which would reveal her underlying diminished self-esteem.

7. Are you hypersensitive? 

When a woman is sexually inactive, this can lead to hypersensitivity, leading to her noticing each detail of the behavior of those around her. This means she can remember exactly what you say and do and pays attention to who belongs to your social circle, your lifestyle choices, and what you prefer with dining. 

She’s very empathetic, meaning if someone else is upset or does a thoughtful act, she reacts emotionally. When this trait is a single characteristic, it’s a sensitive, attentive person by nature but when it’s combined with many of the other characteristics mentioned here, it’s more of a sign that you’re a woman who hasn’t had sexual intimacy in some time.

Final Thought

While you’ll find signs that indicate a woman is sexually inactive, there are ways to develop an emotional connection with this person. She will need to recognize a genuine interest in how she feels and her thoughts in order to develop trust and find you to be credible. This woman only wants to be shown respect and kindness.

The anticipation is that her nonverbal cues and boundaries will be taken into account. It could be a gradual process, but ultimately, a woman who is sexually inactive can become comfortable and feel safe, leading to feelings of desire and a need for intimacy.

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Sophie Simons

Sophie Simons

Sophie Simons is a leading psychologist with a passion for enriching relationships. Through empathetic counseling and insightful guidance, she empowers couples and individuals to foster deeper connections, resolve conflicts, and create lasting harmony. Sophie's expertise in relationship advice has touched countless lives, making her a trusted source for building fulfilling partnerships.

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