In life, there may be times when you discover that certain occupations or activities that used to fascinate you before don’t move you anymore. Particularly if you have been doing it for so long; you no longer seem to find entertainment in playing football, video games, or watching your favorite movie. These are inevitable and can happen anytime. It might happen in a marriage as well, but of course, you cannot switch off your wife just like your TV.
Being together for a long time is just as exhausting as exciting, even if you have not noticed it yet. What could be some signs that might indicate the beginning of separation? And how can you identify them?
There could be several reasons for your wife’s unhappiness. One of these could be that she may feel unappreciated. She might feel that you are no longer concerned with her needs. You might not give her enough attention, or you might treat her more like an object than a human being.
She might feel that she is not as important in your relationship as you are. She could feel controlled. But how do we deal with this tangled spaghetti of emotions?
You might have thought that you have a balanced and peaceful relationship with your wife, but one day, out of the blue, she says, “I’m going out this evening!”. Even though it was surprising, at first, you did not think anything of it. However, soon enough, she started to become less and less talkative.
You notice that she does not give straight answers to your questions and often finds a reason to avoid talking to you. If these have already happened to you, you are being stonewalled by your wife, according to psychotherapist Marni Feuermann. Stonewalling can be the first sign of separation.
If your wife turns to other people to share her feelings and plans, stops complaining, starts focusing on her work and career, and acts passively while rejecting physical, emotional, communicational, and sexual bonding, she is experiencing the walkaway wife syndrome.
Here are a few reasons why your wife might be feeling unhappy and some advice or possible solutions to the problem.
After a long time of living together, married or not, couples might lose interest in one another. After all these years, you might think that there is nothing you don’t know about your partner and that nothing could amaze you.
It is perfectly natural because as you end up knowing more and more about each other, you will learn almost everything – your partner’s habits, manners, hobbies, different behaviors in certain situations – and you might feel that there is nothing “new and interesting” anymore.
Because of that, you might be “ghosting” or “benching” your partner even without you realizing it, and she might do the same. If you think that you and your wife ran out of things to say or share, trying out new things together can be a good idea.
Go to restaurants, do sports together, go to a theatre, cinema, exhibitions and go on trips! Have fun together.
Both parties deserve to feel that they are important to their partner. Both men and women can become more passive, silent, and unresponsive when feeling unappreciated. If your wife is feeling this way, you might notice her behavior changing, and you might even be dealing with the silent treatment.
She is evading conversations and driving you mad. She might be in a Negative Sentiment Override. But don’t worry, because it has its remedy! Express your desire to help her. Listen to her concerns and complaints both about how that mac and cheese ended up gooey and how rude her colleague was. A little care and attention are key!
Sometimes, even without intention, one party can make the other feel controlled. At times like this, your wife might act like she is not willing to be an active part of your relationship. She gives up being an equal part.
There might have been misunderstandings that could have made her feel more like an object to you than a loved one and this is a serious issue. Even if you have never treated her that way, she could have misinterpreted something along the way.
This is the most saddening thing. If you confront her after a long silence, her answer might only be, “I’m sorry.” This can be both infuriating and devastating. She looks like she is not willing to stand up for herself anymore. Now, be patient and attentive.
Talk to her, try to figure out, and talk about what caused her silence. Tell her that her presence is much appreciated and how much you respect and adore her. Speak, listen, understand, and make her feel free and appreciated!
Sometimes, we forget how big of a difference tiredness can make. Whether it’s because of work or health problems that your wife seems to lack energy, she is certainly acting differently. Everyone knows what exhaustion is like. It takes up all your time and patience and affects your mood.
You might notice your wife being moody or more irritated. It might not be connected only to you. The time has come to discuss these things. Ask her about what causes this exhaustion in her life and how you can help to resolve the problem.
Try to help her out. If she is overwhelmed at work, try to help her with some chores at home. Share the to-do list and do it as a team. Try making her feel extra appreciated these times. Express your deep feelings toward her.
It is vital to keep in mind that fixing or boosting a relationship or marriage takes a lot of time and patience. Nothing changes from one day to another. The reasons for a wife’s unhappiness that were mentioned above are only a few of the possible ones.
Keep in mind that problems are not separable from each other, rather they depend on each other. One problem might cause another one, and so on. If you believe that your marriage might be going downhill, try to work on it with your partner.
The most important key to a relationship is open communication. You need to work as a team and therefore, you can only solve the problems together.
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