When in the honeymoon phase of dating, everything about the partnership appears blissful, with potential flaws having ready excuses. These can come back in the future to be significant problems, even a source of contention. You might find that you begin to consider the idea of being single or what it would be like to pursue a different partnership.
Those once-endearing qualities are now a source of resentment and frustration. Does that mean you’re falling out of love with your boyfriend? Quite possibly. Love evolves over time, growing and changing, not always as you might expect. It’s not as though either person has done anything bad or wrong to warrant the change of feelings; it’s a natural progression.
Falling out of love is not always a permanent circumstance. Couples go through ups and downs in partnerships constantly, many rebuilding and moving forward with deeper connections and more meaningful bonds. Others are unable to make things work; instead, they are growing apart with different goals for the future.
Usually, when a woman falls out of love, more than a single problem exists; several circumstances snowball, ultimately leading to the end. It’s not a “knock-down-drag-out” but more so a more subtle, gradual occurrence.
It’s natural for partners to periodically go through rough patches where they may even feel as though they don’t like each other. As love evolves, these growing pains should result in a deeper connection and a more meaningful bond, but not always.
Anything can cause you to look at your boyfriend in a whole new light, whether your personal values shift or you begin to understand unique things about who you’re becoming compared to who you were. Maybe you’re learning about the guy and the fact he isn’t evolving but is stuck in complacency.
In any event, the connection is changing; you’re questioning your emotions for your boyfriend, which could mean the end of the partnership and that leaves you uncertain about how to move forward. Here are a few tips on how to try to alter the course of fate.
Often, when preoccupied with the hectic pace of life, many partners fail to acknowledge their significant other when seeing them with a genuine, heartfelt greeting to show them how much they’re thought of. When you show excitement to see someone, it shows them their importance in your life.
It’s the same concept as when a puppy jumps for joy and wags his tail contentedly when you come home after a long day. His exuberance warms your heart, making you feel like the most important human in the world. You have that power with a boyfriend if you greet them enthusiastically.
If love is fading, perhaps the other person is becoming complacent and not evolving with their identity because you’re not feeding the partnership; there’s no effort being conveyed on either side.
You might be focusing on the parts of the relationship that aren’t working, dwelling on whether or not you’re losing your connection, instead of looking at the good points. Many times, men feel as though there’s no way to rebuild when the conversation is always directed toward what the guy is doing wrong or what you don’t like.
When your boyfriend already feels defeated, as though you don’t like them, let alone love them, because you’re constantly pointing out the negative, it’s only natural for them to feel hopeless. Their thought process is that no matter what they might try, they can’t win.
If you’re focusing on past behavior instead of working toward the quality relationship you want, you’ll be constantly disappointed since your partner is continually discouraged. It’s important to retrain your brain to look at what you once loved about this man. He’s not perfect, none of us are, but he’s an individual that you at one point found attractive, and it’s critical to remember why.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. When you need something from a partnership, ask your mate instead of feeling like criticizing and battling the circumstances will end in reaching goals; this approach is not effective. In fact, it typically does quite the opposite of what you expect.
A better approach than attacking someone about not spending time with you is expressing how you feel when you don’t get to see them, the sadness and wish for more time together. You can make suggestions on how you can make time for each other, maybe set up a special date or some space for a meaningful conversation.
In the honeymoon phase, nothing and no one will take a couple away from these intimate moments. In fact, often you’ll talk throughout the night into the early morning hours. The other person’s perspective, their experiences, and their time are all a priority and that should hold true regardless of how comfortable you become in the partnership.
You have a choice whether the spark or love leaves. The annoyances and hectic pace of life don’t have to interfere if you don’t let them. Nurturing, showing appreciation, and being deliberate are essential for keeping love moving forward, preventing it from fading.
You might believe you don’t love your boyfriend and are unsure what to do about it; that could very well be true. But it’s important to recognize that love will grow and evolve, becoming something different from what you might anticipate. It’s not supposed to be predictable but beyond your expectations.
The only way to achieve the love that you want, however, is to consider what it is you need from a partnership and a boyfriend and then be conscious of offering those same traits to the relationship yourself.
Things like heartfelt greetings, random acts of kindness, undivided attention, quality time, genuine intimacy and affection, romance; these work both ways. If you feel unfulfilled and it’s causing you to fall out of love, maybe look at how you’re nurturing the partnership. If you were an example of how you wanted love to work in the relationship, do you think things might be different?
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